Tired of being in the fast lane in life and needing to be in the slow lane… have you ever tried just sitting in the middle lane?
Having high expectation and a need to get everything right places you in the fast lane. It can be exciting, fun and with a million ideas whizzing round your brain. Balancing life can begin to feel tricky with demands of work and family but the more you challenge the quicker the pace gets. Just like playing a driving computer game where all your senses have to be alert and your response time has to be quick.
Then we have the slow lane where life can have a chance to relax. You don’t have to hurry in this lane and you know you will get there in the end. You get time to see the view, look around and observe where you are, and feel the sun. It can also feel too comfortable and everything can take twice as long, concentration is difficult and not having to worry or think of things when there are pressing matters around you begins to make the slow lane feel a bit like wading through treacle.
Here are a few questions to help you find your fast and slow lane in life?
What do you thrive on in life?
How do you relax in life?
What brings you calm in life?
What brings you excitement in life?
What brings you joy?
All these questions are about you, not what you have to do, need to do or must do for others. They are your questions in life about how you feel and what you want or need. Seems obvious but go back to your responses and check that they are about you not others.
When I asked the questions above to myself, I realised that I love the fast and slow lane but they were too much and I got frustrated, restless very quickly. So why not sit in the middle lane for some time. Being aware when transitioning to the fast lane and when there is a need to transition to the slow lane. The middle lane has a sense of balance about it; it has goals, drive and a huge awareness of what’s going on around you. I want to spend time in the middle lane and choose when to go fast or slow rather than the feelings of having to go fast or needing to go slow.
choose when to go fast or slow rather than the feelings of having to go fast or needing to go slow.
I’m going to enjoy the middle lane. Thriving in the fast lane and needing to be calm in the slow lane; how about enjoying being in the middle lane?…What brings you joy? Your middle lane? Some techniques