If you’re asking how to feel calmer in your life then your glass is overflowing. I often ask ‘ if you have a glass and it’s getting full with life such as tasks, responsibilities, stresses how full 1-10 is the glass?’  I often hear 11; its overflowing. This rush or too much going on in your life can result in the smallest thing just adding too much to the glass and suddenly you feel a 15 and can’t complete any tasks, or you’ve got angry, cross, tearful.

How amazing would it be to feel a 3 or a 4 in life; what would that look like? Just let that sink in. This could feel relaxed, not rushing, or even reducing pressure on you. It may sound a long way off but then you’re reading this so you have already started making incremental changes in your life.

Here’s a little task for you to use in helping to feel calmer and take time. Each week set a goal for what number you think you can manage. Don’t be overly ambitious; you may find 9 ¾ is your best but each week reduce the number. That’s it, so simple and straightforward. Your retraining your brain in this task and you will find yourself in the middle of a task rushing and saying, “That’s no way to behave if I want to be a 7,” or you sleep through an alarm and you would normally rush, skip breakfast but instead you take your time and say, “These things happen and I’m a 6 today.” It can take several months but the tool is observing when the glass is full, when it spills over and how you want the volume to be reduced.

How do I feel calmer? It can be in taking the step to acknowledge that you don’t feel calm sometimes, that simple things can suddenly be huge obstacles. I want to feel calmer ok and if this wish came true what would be the first sign that it had happened in your life……… focus on that, and now you have a goal. Some people may say, if I have more time I would feel relaxed inside; I wouldn’t be rushing; I can read a book in peace. We can even change the expression and put, “feeling calmer for me would be ……”.